Hello there! Spring has been a blur of engagement sessions (which I will begin sharing today), but what I’m really here to talk about is what happens before (or after) these sessions. It involves food, conversation, and at least one hug (just accept the love).
While I do enjoy the chance to shoot without strict timelines or the additional pressures of the wedding day, I believe that the most valuable takeaway from these sessions is the chance to connect,on a deeper level, with the people I am photographing. I find the habit of simply showing up and immediately hiding my face behind the camera to be awkward and impersonal. This works well with some photographers, as well as the people they work with, but not for me. To put it simply and honestly: if you prefer to have a photographer that keeps their distance, one that basically exists to you as an entity that lives in emails, appearing on occasion as a talking camera with legs, I’m not the photographer for you.
My work is shaped by a more personal connection, and it is that familiarity that brings satisfaction to this job. If you choose to work with me, you can expect that we will at the very least be chatting over a cup of coffee (or in my case, tea) before my gear ever makes an appearance. In an ideal situation, we will hang out over brick-oven pizza and beer/wine, but I’m flexible on that. 😉 What I refuse to compromise on is the time we will spend together. I need to know you. I want you to know and, more importantly, trust me.
But, you may ask, we have already exchanged emails and likely talked in person/on facetime already… why the food and drink? To get all Quote-y on you, the 14th Dalai Lama believes that “the act of bringing food is one of the basic roots of all relationships.” Personally, I believe that the right meal nourishes much more than the body. It beckons us to slow down, to indulge in our senses, and provides an opportunity to connect with others. Sharing a meal brings us together through hospitality and expressions of friendship. In many ways, the essence of who we are can be revealed by the way we incorporate food into our lives. As the years go by, I find that most couples who connect with me share this philosophy. Bonus: one drink before your session is a great way to relax. 😉
On this gorgeous day in Cape Cod, Liz & DJ met with me over beers and pizza (yay!) at a location that Liz frequented when she was young. New Cape Tip that I learned that day: the mini-golf course behind Red Barn Pizza in Eastham is far less crowded than any other courses in the area. You are welcome. We then spent the evening at their pup’s favorite bayside beach, relaxed in the hammock at their family cottage, and caught the sunset on the oceanside at Nauset Beach. These location choices were very personal, which is also important, but I’ll get into that in a future post. 😉 Below are a few of my favorite images from our time together:
Liz & DJ, thank you for spending a few hours with me. Also, for your patience whenever I needed breaks to flop Jackson’s ears. 😉 I’m so excited to see you again, soon, when we celebrate your wedding!